“Unexpected Lesson”

Have you ever been amazed of the outcomes of an unexpected decision which you were hesitated to make? A part of you did not want to do it, but then something pushed you so hard to let it happen.

One day in 2017, I was on a cycling excursion from Phnom Penh to Koh Kong province with a group of my friends. It was approximately 280-kilometer riding trip that would normally take just around five to six hours to get there if I used car or bus. Unfortunately, my transport was a bike. You know what, I had never had any experiences on biking for that long distance before or even ridden bike as my daily routine.

At first I thought that I was not physically strong enough for that tough task though, so I was really frightened that I would not be able to make it to our destination. But then, I didn’t know what pushed me to the point that I eventually decided to take the challenge, from which I might have regretted if I did not because, after all, I realized that the trip taught me a useful lesson in life.

It is true that I was not a well-trained cyclist, so how could I manage to cycle with my friends throughout the trip? Admittedly it was not an easy journey at all because the distance was around 170 miles and the road conditions were bumpy and hilly at some points. Plus, it would take us a few days to get to Koh Kong province. However, even though there were obstacles, we believed that it was not impossible as well. 

On our trip, we had to set out clear goal for each day, so that we had a sense of direction where we were heading for. This decision was made because we all understood that doing the job step by step is the only choice we could bring about the achievement. This means we were riding around 100 kilometers a day. More importantly, we would not have stopped if, by the end of the day, we had not reached the point yet, which was our resilient commitment.

Moreover, there were times when my journey was going within difficulties. At that time, I remember cycling in the dark cycling until 7 or 8 o’clock, so I could barely see the way as there were not any lights alongside of the road. Plus, the road itself was extremely hilly, and some parts of it were under constructions, so my bike and I were going up and down repeatedly. At one point when I was going down from the top of the mountain, I was not carefully holding the brakes, which let my bike going down speedily. Then, suddenly my front wheel hit a deep pothole really strongly as I had not been aware of it. Not being able to control the situation, I was shocked and terribly fell off the bike. 

My arms and knees were badly cut, but I could not see it because of the darkness. When I touched those parts of my body, I felt the wetness of my blood dripped out of the surface of my clothes. It hurt so much, yet I was thankful that I was still laying alive on the road.  Swiftly, I rose up from the ground, brushed the dust out of myself, and picked my bike up right at time when my friends came. Despite the facts that I got some injuries, and my bike’s neck was bended in an unusual way, I still keep on moving forward because we were still 5 kilometers away from our pinned point yet. 

During the time when I was riding for the rest of that day, I started to think about myself. What had just happened was not different to what always does to the reality in my daily life. It is virtually inevitable that life has ups and downs. While sometimes I am happy, the other times I am upset due to impacts of the circumstances I am living in. 

For me, based on this unforgettable riding experience, I have learned that whether I stay in enjoyable or tough places, the continuity of my life will be on. Unexpected things will occur no matter what, some of which are problems that might be absolutely complicated as its complexity could possibly causes us a lot of stress. The bigger the challenge is, the more time we need to solve. To cope and overcome these, not only our physical endurance is needed, but also the mental one, all of which would be gained from my actual life experiences. 

If I encounter with huge issues that cannot be dealt at once, I will have to break them down, and then work on each task step by step, just like the way I did while I was cycling to Koh Kong. Sometimes, when I am dealing with the problems, which means the problems and I are staying very closely together in one box, I will not be able to see the whole picture of them. This makes it hard for me to choose which strategy is the best for the situation I am working with. Therefore, I need to take a break from the problems as this will give me a deeper and wiser perspective towards their nature. 

By doing these, the impossibility became achievable for me. Surely, I know that the process of overcoming life challenges consumes much more time than eating a hamburger which was readily made and placed on the table for you. Yet, as long as we don’t give up, and keep moving forward, I believe that our life will be developed towards a point that we might have never imagined, and by then we will be astonished by how far we will have been through. 

Cheers!

“My Comfort Zone”

“Find Your Own Comfort Zone!”

We normally receive countless advice from people that we should once in a while leave our comfort zone and explore the world to find our true selves. However, have we already understood what comfort zone means, or perhaps the definition itself is tremendously controversial that one’s defining is different from the others’. 

One of my friends said that home is her definition of comfort zone. Staying in and practicing her routines, something she does regularly, are things she prefers to do most of her weekends. She believes that this promises comfort and safety. My opinion is somehow a little contrary to what she mentioned. I don’t know whether you have ever felt the same way, but it is true for me that whenever I stay in, my feelings are uneasy. I would get stressed and sometimes feel sick. 

So, I don’t consider my bedroom as a cozy zone, and I constantly feel like going out and needing a naturally fresh air. For example, when I have some short spare time, I often hang out with friends at a café in town. Moreover, if I have a long holiday, like 3 days or more, I would choose to go away. The majority of people would use the term ‘leaving the comfort zone’ to represent this action. 

However, I am a bit different. Going away is a path to reach my comfort zone.

You may question why I say this. It’s simple because comfort zone to me can be various places which are challenging, but they give me peace in my heart and mind. Normally, natural places with beautiful sceneries like islands, seas and mountains are my relaxing places. Thus, when I step out of the door of my house, I never think that I am leaving my comfort zone. Yet, I am going for a comfort zone.

This is one example of my leaving for a comfort zone: 

I was on cycling excursion with a group of friends from Phnom Penh to Koh Kong in 2017. Actually, I had been a bit hesitated whether I should join or not because I had never had experiences on riding for long distance, and I was not physically strong enough. I was afraid that I would not make it. The trip didn’t seem comfortable, did it?

Paradoxically, the circumstance which I was in wasn’t good at all. I felt extremely stressed and really exhausted due to my work and family. Even when I was staying at home, my head could not relax. So, I eventually decided to take the challenge.

From this, I found my peaceful time with my mental calmness during my bike ride on a very long road. I forgot all of my anxiety and started to fill my energy. The sole concentration I had was on my goal – the place that I set to arrive each day. 

From this, I have then learned many useful lessons in life. One of them is my idea on cycling. I came to understand that cycling does not depends on only our physical strength, but also commitment, endurance and direction. It is true that I was not well-trained cyclist, but I surely could do this job step by step. That means, during my trip, we rode around 100 kilometers a day, and we had to set out the direction for each day. 

Despite the difficulty to see the road in the evening as there were not any light, I remember we were still cycling until 7 o’clock because we must arrive at out pinned point. This shows that we needed a very strong endurance which came out of our mind.  Had we been lack of any of these mentioned points, we would have never reached the place we wanted to go. 

As you can see, traveling does not give me only peace in my heart, but it also provides a sense of accomplishment and satisfaction. What is more important is that it often teaches me new lessons in life. The story is really not different since a combination of all of these together are truly essential to achieve our set goals.  

To sum up this article, I kind of have two points to leave here. First, people have different perspectives on the meaning of comfort zone. Second, a place that can give you a physical comfort is not always able to produce a mental well-being for you. But what I am sure about is that there is only you who can find your own comfort zone.